When you belong to a marginalised group, it becomes difficult to individualise. You are both inadvertently and systemically lumped in with a whole group, making it difficult to transmute your pain, or share your experiences in the way that is best for you as an individual.
Why? I believe it is because the default culture doesn't care to learn the complexities of the marginalised, and immediately seeks to slap a stereotype on the entire group so it doesn't...