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Emotions don't discriminate...why should we !
Hurt, abuse, depression, trauma, heartbreaks, pain, suffering doesn't distinguish between genders. Men are as much affected by them as women are. It's just that men have always been portrayed as the strong, the macho, the one who takes everything at his stride, the leader, the provider, the decision maker..... As they say..."Mard ko dard nahi hota" or " Boys/Men don't cry". Whereas women have always been portrayed as emotional, vulnerable, shedding tears, weak, requiring support, nurturing, caring, loving, god fearing....As they say... don't cry like a woman.
Over a period of time we have divided the genders not only as per the work, ability, roles etc but also as per the emotions and in this quotient I think both have been duped. Women are expected to just cry...when you are hurt cry, pain cry, feeling angry cry, happiness cry, cry and crib these are the two things they are allowed and free to do. They can't shout, they can't laugh heartily, they are not supposed to be strong for themselves and take a stand for themselves or others, they aren't suppose to find solutions to the problems. They are supposed to just be beautiful and live with the problems, sufferings etc. etc. lifelong or till the time someone of opposite gender can come to their help, to rescue them cos they are absolutely incapable of doing so. Owing to which women have to be indebted to their rescuer for life, fall for them, love them, be with them, care for them and spend their whole life with them, for them. There is no choice, no option...No possibility to say that oh I am thankful to you that you rescued me, yes I owe you one but will live my life my way now. Or even that no I chose not to endure the suffering any more, I am rescuing myself. No not at all...a woman can't do that.
Men are expected to be strong in any situation, leading from the front, be the bread earner for himself and for the family, anger, ego, pride are the emotions which he is supposed to wear. There is no option, no choice. He cannot say I don't want to earn, I wish to follow my passion, That I am tired of being strong all the time, I sometimes feel vulnerable too and I need your support, I want to cry my heart out.
Why one has to supress what they truly are, what they are capable of, why are they typecasted.
There is another aspect to it as well. Women since they are deemed weak everyone is vocal about their cause, the atrocities they have to suffer, their rights, the suppression etc. etc., but incase of men it's completely opposite. Since they are considered strong and the dominant one out of both sexes they are left to fight their own battle. The situations they go through, the emotional, mental sufferings they suffer to meet out the expectations, to stand firm on the parameters and standard set, to display their true emotions being considered as weakness no one talks about these matters. Or even if it is spoken about it's in a very limited circle. Where is the freedom per say...are we free in the true sense. Like women men go through their own troubles, they have their own fears, suffering, atrocities. If we talk about equality, giving equal opportunity then we have to treat them as equal in every sense. If a lady is a mother, a wife, a daughter, a sister, a lover, a friend along with being a woman, so a guy is also a father, a husband, a son, a brother, a lover, a friend apart from being a man.
Why it needs to be so hard to express what you truly feel, to display your true emotions, to speak your mind, to just be you as you are and not always just trying to either find one's place in the society, or trying to get an acceptance or even trying to prove oneself. Let's not one sex get more encouragement and endorsement at the expense of other.
Men can cry too... Women can be head strong too...
When trauma, and sufferings don't distinguish between genders... let's not be biased as well and support and stand for a cause, for the one who needs it irrespective of the gender. Accept, do not discriminate. Let's appreciate and celebrate the men too as much as we do the women in our life. Let's support, accept and voice for the men too as much as we do for women.
© agypsysoul
#thoughtsofagypsysoul #kuchkahikuchankahi
#genderequality #genderroles #gender #Menarevictimstoo #
Over a period of time we have divided the genders not only as per the work, ability, roles etc but also as per the emotions and in this quotient I think both have been duped. Women are expected to just cry...when you are hurt cry, pain cry, feeling angry cry, happiness cry, cry and crib these are the two things they are allowed and free to do. They can't shout, they can't laugh heartily, they are not supposed to be strong for themselves and take a stand for themselves or others, they aren't suppose to find solutions to the problems. They are supposed to just be beautiful and live with the problems, sufferings etc. etc. lifelong or till the time someone of opposite gender can come to their help, to rescue them cos they are absolutely incapable of doing so. Owing to which women have to be indebted to their rescuer for life, fall for them, love them, be with them, care for them and spend their whole life with them, for them. There is no choice, no option...No possibility to say that oh I am thankful to you that you rescued me, yes I owe you one but will live my life my way now. Or even that no I chose not to endure the suffering any more, I am rescuing myself. No not at all...a woman can't do that.
Men are expected to be strong in any situation, leading from the front, be the bread earner for himself and for the family, anger, ego, pride are the emotions which he is supposed to wear. There is no option, no choice. He cannot say I don't want to earn, I wish to follow my passion, That I am tired of being strong all the time, I sometimes feel vulnerable too and I need your support, I want to cry my heart out.
Why one has to supress what they truly are, what they are capable of, why are they typecasted.
There is another aspect to it as well. Women since they are deemed weak everyone is vocal about their cause, the atrocities they have to suffer, their rights, the suppression etc. etc., but incase of men it's completely opposite. Since they are considered strong and the dominant one out of both sexes they are left to fight their own battle. The situations they go through, the emotional, mental sufferings they suffer to meet out the expectations, to stand firm on the parameters and standard set, to display their true emotions being considered as weakness no one talks about these matters. Or even if it is spoken about it's in a very limited circle. Where is the freedom per say...are we free in the true sense. Like women men go through their own troubles, they have their own fears, suffering, atrocities. If we talk about equality, giving equal opportunity then we have to treat them as equal in every sense. If a lady is a mother, a wife, a daughter, a sister, a lover, a friend along with being a woman, so a guy is also a father, a husband, a son, a brother, a lover, a friend apart from being a man.
Why it needs to be so hard to express what you truly feel, to display your true emotions, to speak your mind, to just be you as you are and not always just trying to either find one's place in the society, or trying to get an acceptance or even trying to prove oneself. Let's not one sex get more encouragement and endorsement at the expense of other.
Men can cry too... Women can be head strong too...
When trauma, and sufferings don't distinguish between genders... let's not be biased as well and support and stand for a cause, for the one who needs it irrespective of the gender. Accept, do not discriminate. Let's appreciate and celebrate the men too as much as we do the women in our life. Let's support, accept and voice for the men too as much as we do for women.
© agypsysoul
#thoughtsofagypsysoul #kuchkahikuchankahi
#genderequality #genderroles #gender #Menarevictimstoo #
