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My momma used to call them: “hypocrites”.

The people who seem to be on their ‘high horse’ looking down on others because of their choices or conditions in life. Or maybe it’s actually us, who find ourself saying about others, ” If only- THEY wouldn’t have done THAT– I wouldn’t have to do this, then my life would be exponentially better”.

Possibly, that’s a true statement. But what if our own attitudes and actions have a greater impact than we think regarding OTHERS choices? I am specifically talking about our own stress response to situations- especially in the beginning -of the addicts journey.

Admitting our own frailties is difficult especially when someones else’s are blatantly front and center, blasting us in the face.

Today I was thinking about this There are many scientific articles actually rebuking cause and effect mostly in the subject of matter & objects- not humans.

I decided to go down the rabbit hole and explore cause and effect in addiction-

I see so many frustrated and bitter posts on mom’s addict support groups about how awful the person with a substance abuse disorder is. They are mean, crass, irresponsible and everything else that you would expect from someone who’s frontal lobe is in dysfunction mode in order the let the midbrain do it’s hijacked thing: fight or flight; sick or not sick etc.

We Must, at some point, realize that our one finger pointing out, still has 3 pointing back at us.

For example, looking at a homeless person brings out all of our, ” I’m so glad that’s not me or one of my kids-I mean we all work and do responsible stuff right?”

Or the allure of trauma news stories or murder shows makes us think of how fortunate we are that we don’t have those people in our family. I’m not a therapist but it may even be trying to justify, downplay our own problems or even deflect from them.


I know that quote seems harsh.
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