Step 1- Forgive yourself of all guilt, shame and regrets, for it was not your fault. You did nothing but stay true.
Step 2- Milk the pain for a lesson to be learned, for situations which break ones heart can always be taken a lesson from, no matter how small.
Step 3- Learn to separate the intimate love from the platonic. Above all love learn to love yourself as much as the human race as a whole. In this, discernment between infatuation and desire will be compartmentalized in order to distinguish soulful love from lonesome yearning and impulsive nose dives into pools of momentary euphoric rushes of attention, moments of self indulgence and the induced satisfaction of seeking company to fill voids which were once fractions of a whole heart.
Step 4- Learn to value your time spent alone, for this time is priceless to a point yet inexpressible.
Step 5- If you seek true romance, be patient and not shallow and your souls partner will be brought to you by the universe, often without one realizing it, until true fateful love strikes your bell.
Step 6- Be yourself and do what you love. Seek not confirmation and impression from others. Whatever it is your heart craves (often sub/unconscious), will come with trueness to self, bringing with it true understanding of self and healthy confidence.
Step 7- A brutally honest self inventory is due to weed out neuroses and wrong doings we project and hide, strengthening our integrity and fortifying our sincerity.
Step 8- Most important, seek love for the right reasons and you will find what it is that truly makes the heart sing!

© Sebastian Grey