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why can I not just exist?
My two feet had learnt to crawl and walk before my mind was able to conceptualise what art or poetry is; I realise now that I was always creative. I did not need to define my creativity. I love the way I think, create, move, wonder and feel as I am able to when I am free. I am my own woman and I am my own human being. I could never be, defined creativity, or creativity…
Why can I not just exist?
There are always questions that follow whenever I make that statement: “because to exist has to serve purpose and there has to be a reason for everything”. Yet again, they fail to realise I am not asking for their opinion or permission; But they didn’t fail to realise that I was reaffirming my boundary of my own life and how I choose to live my life.
There is always anger from men, when a woman is happy, freely on her own; Especially amongst other women who are happily, freely, together, celebrating one another and the bodies of women. It somehow is always exploited until the woman is reminded again of why she is hated: “how dare you reject them”. To them it is kinder than saying “they do not approve of you having your own choices, freedom, human rights and boundaries; Not at the expense of their selfishness, pride, pleasure, god and patriarchy”.
I’ve realised men envy women; To obsess over a woman’s life the way they do; Is to have women always where they need them. It is to never stop having love and affection; Because they don’t know how to feel that with other men. Patriarchy is psychopathy; Men don’t respect women because they project their anger from men onto women… but also would like to have the relationships women have with one another and with themselves… because fathers rarely teach themselves or their sons how to love. Men are ridiculed for ever admitting the above; That anger has to go somewhere and it usually hits another woman.
“No; it is not a woman’s problem; It is a patriarchy’s problem. Men are expecting women to feel sorry for them? When there are so many of them raping us? Controlling our life, health, work, human rights and financial decisions? Stop expecting a woman to fix or mother you. Go to therapy and learn to fix yourself!”. It is true; But it is pushed onto women who don’t want it and are forced to be abused still because of it. That still does not make it a woman’s problem; It is misogyny, that is forcing women to be abused by, and live with, the burden of men’s patriarchy and trauma.
Women are where they are because women support women. There are also good men that support and empower women; But there are very few who don’t expect anything in return for not being abusive. One day when patriarchy is abolished and men start to empower and support one another by fighting for a world that is feminist; The world will undoubtedly change and women will have their own freedom.
© Lois Christina
Why can I not just exist?
There are always questions that follow whenever I make that statement: “because to exist has to serve purpose and there has to be a reason for everything”. Yet again, they fail to realise I am not asking for their opinion or permission; But they didn’t fail to realise that I was reaffirming my boundary of my own life and how I choose to live my life.
There is always anger from men, when a woman is happy, freely on her own; Especially amongst other women who are happily, freely, together, celebrating one another and the bodies of women. It somehow is always exploited until the woman is reminded again of why she is hated: “how dare you reject them”. To them it is kinder than saying “they do not approve of you having your own choices, freedom, human rights and boundaries; Not at the expense of their selfishness, pride, pleasure, god and patriarchy”.
I’ve realised men envy women; To obsess over a woman’s life the way they do; Is to have women always where they need them. It is to never stop having love and affection; Because they don’t know how to feel that with other men. Patriarchy is psychopathy; Men don’t respect women because they project their anger from men onto women… but also would like to have the relationships women have with one another and with themselves… because fathers rarely teach themselves or their sons how to love. Men are ridiculed for ever admitting the above; That anger has to go somewhere and it usually hits another woman.
“No; it is not a woman’s problem; It is a patriarchy’s problem. Men are expecting women to feel sorry for them? When there are so many of them raping us? Controlling our life, health, work, human rights and financial decisions? Stop expecting a woman to fix or mother you. Go to therapy and learn to fix yourself!”. It is true; But it is pushed onto women who don’t want it and are forced to be abused still because of it. That still does not make it a woman’s problem; It is misogyny, that is forcing women to be abused by, and live with, the burden of men’s patriarchy and trauma.
Women are where they are because women support women. There are also good men that support and empower women; But there are very few who don’t expect anything in return for not being abusive. One day when patriarchy is abolished and men start to empower and support one another by fighting for a world that is feminist; The world will undoubtedly change and women will have their own freedom.
© Lois Christina
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