Oh Father Father....
How your love so not straightforward, but heart melting.

My Father's love is like a puzzle that's now easy to solve...
He would say "don't go out", "keep out", "be at arms length", "don't stay there", "don't go there", "don't..."
There were quite a lot of don'ts. 

Tho minimal and not frequently acknowledged, the dos were powerful...
"Be strong", "be respectful", "be of great value", "be successful", "be a leader", "be encouraging", "be the first that you are"

And actually there were don'ts that were dos...
"Don't cry".. meaning be...