it's interesting -
the things we unlearn
and have to reteach ourselves
as adults.

a friend said something in passing
a few weeks ago,
and it hasn't left my mind since:

"I don't wear
uncomfortable clothes to work."

this statement blew my mind.

my mother is many things.
she's done many things.
she's a very accomplished professional.

i grew up
accustomed to people
wondering aloud at my mother's
achievements and acclaim.

my mother taught me many rules
for dressing, behaving, and interacting.
my sister and i soaked up the lessons
like sponges.

comfort has never been a consideration.

i've always been complimented
on my style and attire -
professionally and at formal events.

i was taught that style
and professionalism
outweighed other needs.

comfort was never a consideration.

i am also complimented
on my behaviour and communication
in professional situations.

even when my world is crumbling,
i learned to shove it down
and prioritise and respond to
the needs of the other...