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Empathy a curse or a blessing?
My empathy is what makes me, well me. It has put me into situations that are not suitable for the faint of heart.
I speak of it like my empathy is a separate entity as if it has its own identity. If you have this gift I know you know the path I'm on isn't easy.
When I meet people my empathy makes sure I know exactly how they feel whether I want to or not. It allows me to see the world through a different point of view, you may say "wow"
I say just wait and see that having this perspective, this two-person view, is nothing you would want for yourself.
In reality, my empathy sneaks around my wants and needs, it tells me when people are lying, you might think it's a gift until you are me trying on a size three and asking your friend if they grab my hips too tightly.
Speaking of friends you can forget having them for a long time because knowing all of what they are feeling is knowing them completely. It feels intrusive like I should ask for permission just to be around.
I have tried to explain this entity encoded into my DNA and that goes as expected, you get into a long overly complicated conversation that ends with your friend saying "am I lying now" even though you said it doesn't work like that every time they ask.
Your empathy will give you some good life lessons like everybody lies, pick your battles & make sure you know why you are fighting them, observe and listen to people, and if you know he or she isn't the right one don't string them along just because you can't bare the feeling of their heartbreaking.
I knew when I met my soulmate things became much clearer, I can't control my empathy and scowl at the loops it threw me threw, and above are just a few. It's given me a subtle clue on how the world works, you know the low down, the skivvy, the whos who, and the best power it's given me is the power to understand animals in a way only a true empath can. I know what you are thinking that would be super cool, she's like Dr. Doolittle, and I am until one day your dog is on his last breath as we put him to sleep and all of the sudden you can feel his intense breathing which then becomes your own and at 5 or 6 years old you learned how it felt to be alive for 14 years dying in peace at your household.
Did you think it would be so grandiose, your pets have feelings, and the more intense feelings come across the wave lengths as the language we understand. They don't have to be your pet to give you a reality check.
Sea World 1998 the big sorrow-filled eye met mine as he swam by, this is the first time I have ever felt such an emotional blast. Standing there about to puke or faint he swims by and blasts me again, this time the room starts to spin.
I'm only eight and in just one second I know exactly what it feels like to be an orca captured and taken from the sea as just a baby. Was I the only one who just saw this? The second glimpse was how he felt inside that tank, depressed and hungry, with no hope in humanity, we stole him and locked him up forever in captivity. A voice over the speaker says "Ladies and gentlemen take your seat to start the show, remember Shamoo wants to be here just like you do".
I couldn't believe what I was hearing a lie that hurt my little eight-year-old soul. Every part of me wanted to scream and cry and I tried to explain to my mom that the girl was lying, I said they stole him from his family! My mom saw me for me, she had been the only person aware of my sensitivity and she agreed and told me it was cruelty.
That day I knew that I was different but not only different I was alone, and no one around me understood what I was saying. Animals have understood the languages we speak for centuries, this is my opinion my gut feeling.
Curse or a blessing I still don't know the things I do know about me, you, the world, and life because of having my empathy; feels more like a blessing and what makes me, me.
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I speak of it like my empathy is a separate entity as if it has its own identity. If you have this gift I know you know the path I'm on isn't easy.
When I meet people my empathy makes sure I know exactly how they feel whether I want to or not. It allows me to see the world through a different point of view, you may say "wow"
I say just wait and see that having this perspective, this two-person view, is nothing you would want for yourself.
In reality, my empathy sneaks around my wants and needs, it tells me when people are lying, you might think it's a gift until you are me trying on a size three and asking your friend if they grab my hips too tightly.
Speaking of friends you can forget having them for a long time because knowing all of what they are feeling is knowing them completely. It feels intrusive like I should ask for permission just to be around.
I have tried to explain this entity encoded into my DNA and that goes as expected, you get into a long overly complicated conversation that ends with your friend saying "am I lying now" even though you said it doesn't work like that every time they ask.
Your empathy will give you some good life lessons like everybody lies, pick your battles & make sure you know why you are fighting them, observe and listen to people, and if you know he or she isn't the right one don't string them along just because you can't bare the feeling of their heartbreaking.
I knew when I met my soulmate things became much clearer, I can't control my empathy and scowl at the loops it threw me threw, and above are just a few. It's given me a subtle clue on how the world works, you know the low down, the skivvy, the whos who, and the best power it's given me is the power to understand animals in a way only a true empath can. I know what you are thinking that would be super cool, she's like Dr. Doolittle, and I am until one day your dog is on his last breath as we put him to sleep and all of the sudden you can feel his intense breathing which then becomes your own and at 5 or 6 years old you learned how it felt to be alive for 14 years dying in peace at your household.
Did you think it would be so grandiose, your pets have feelings, and the more intense feelings come across the wave lengths as the language we understand. They don't have to be your pet to give you a reality check.
Sea World 1998 the big sorrow-filled eye met mine as he swam by, this is the first time I have ever felt such an emotional blast. Standing there about to puke or faint he swims by and blasts me again, this time the room starts to spin.
I'm only eight and in just one second I know exactly what it feels like to be an orca captured and taken from the sea as just a baby. Was I the only one who just saw this? The second glimpse was how he felt inside that tank, depressed and hungry, with no hope in humanity, we stole him and locked him up forever in captivity. A voice over the speaker says "Ladies and gentlemen take your seat to start the show, remember Shamoo wants to be here just like you do".
I couldn't believe what I was hearing a lie that hurt my little eight-year-old soul. Every part of me wanted to scream and cry and I tried to explain to my mom that the girl was lying, I said they stole him from his family! My mom saw me for me, she had been the only person aware of my sensitivity and she agreed and told me it was cruelty.
That day I knew that I was different but not only different I was alone, and no one around me understood what I was saying. Animals have understood the languages we speak for centuries, this is my opinion my gut feeling.
Curse or a blessing I still don't know the things I do know about me, you, the world, and life because of having my empathy; feels more like a blessing and what makes me, me.
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